Ways to Bond With Intended Parents
When it comes to your match, you already know that you get along well on a base level. You wouldn’t have matched with them if that weren’t the case, after all! It is perfectly normal to be a little bit anxious or nervous after your initial meeting, though. Chances are, you’ll be working with these intended parents for the next year or so. You’ll want to form some sort of bond!
You hear all the time about success stories; gestational carriers and intended parents who become extremely close, and form lifelong friendships. For some lucky matches, they get along instantly. The bond was already there, they only needed to discover it themselves. For others, there needs to be a bit of work put in to create that connection.
If you’re finding yourself in the latter category, or if you just need some extra ideas, then you’ve come to the right place. This week, Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Reno is exploring different ways to bond with intended parents. (Psst! If you’re in the intended parents camp, and would like to know how to bond with your gestational carrier, check out this post!)
Not every intended parent is childless, despite the information that says otherwise. For many, they already have little ones who are anxiously awaiting becoming older siblings. That said, if your intended parent match has children, you may look to participating in family activities. While you’re at it -- bring your own children, if you have them! It’s a great way for you to see their parenting style in action, and a great way for your families to get to know one another.
If you’re looking to spend time outdoors (and social distance), Reno locals can check out the Discovery Museum. It’s a hands-on science based museum that teaches children through interactive exhibitions. Not only does it teach your little ones about different sciences (it hosts a “cloud walk”, an “Under the Stars” gallery, and more), but you can also keep your little one’s mind occupied with what they’ve learned after your tour of the museum is over. The museum houses a sizable gift shop/store that holds all sorts of take-home science goodies.While your little ones are soaking in all of this information, you may find that you’re learning yourself! Keep an eye on their website or their social media platforms for any new exhibits, as the museum cycles through them frequently.
Do keep in mind, also, that due to the Coronavirus epidemic, as of this writing, the museum is temporarily closed. There is no indication on when exactly they’ll open up their doors again, but it will hopefully be soon! In the meantime, the museum does offer some educational and virtual resources on their website.
If you’re still feeling dubious about going out into the world as it is, no need to worry! There are plenty of activities that you can do in the solace of your own home. A great way to get some time in with your intended parents and their family is to host a socially-distanced lunch or a dinner. However, instead of a standard sit-down dinner, you could try one with a theme -- perhaps a superhero lunch, where everyone dresses as their favorite hero! This can help your intended parents’ child(ren) feel included in the bonding, and provide a fun way to get to know one another a little better!
Back to Basics
You may scoff at this piece of advice. After all, didn’t you play the “getting to know you” game during your first meeting? As you’ve likely learned by now, relationships of any kind are all absolutely dependent on creating a solid base for communication. The relationship you build with your intended parents is no exception. So, when you’re in the fledgling stages of your new acquaintanceship, the best thing you can do is talk. Ask your intended parents about themselves. If they’re married, how long have they been together? What was their meet-cute story like? If they’re single, what do they enjoy doing with their free time? What sort of music do they listen to? It doesn’t have to be all about what’s brought the two of you together.
Remember, though, to keep it light and easy. You don’t want to turn the first few meetings into interrogation sessions. You’ll have plenty of time to get to know one another better in the coming months. Just be yourself, be patient, and be open to your match asking you questions. Every relationship is a two-way street, and the intended parent(s) may very well be as nervous about this process as you are.
Surrogate Relationship with Intended Parents
While you’re learning about different ways to bond with intended parents, remember to be patient with not only your match, but also yourself. Every relationship is different. While you may not form a bond as close as other matches, it is still uniquely your relationship. As you get to know one another, you will learn what works for your bond, and what doesn’t.
Was there a suggestion that you hadn’t thought to see on this post? Leave a comment! Are you looking to get started on your own gestational surrogacy journey? Feel free to get in contact with Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Reno. We’re available through email, by phone, or through social media. Wherever your contact comforts lie, we are here to assist you in any way we can!
Be safe and be well, friends!
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