A Guide for Pregnant Surrogates during the Holidays
It’s officially the most wonderful time of the year! Everyone is getting (or has gotten) their homes ready for holiday cheer, and are preparing for the end of the year. Even during 2020, it’s hard to ignore the warm, fuzzy feeling that accompanies the holiday season, especially for anyone who is pregnant. Seeing the warm glow of holiday lights, smelling baked goods in your home, and having some expectations of the season lifted from your shoulders (can’t carry too much weight when you’re expecting, after all!) can help you sink into a cozy state of mind.
That all being said, we’d sound very naive if we told you there wouldn’t be some amount of stress and anxiety that comes with the territory of the holidays. Being pregnant during this time, while wonderful, can also add to your unease. Not to worry, though! We here at Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Reno have assembled this quick guide for pregnant surrogates during the holidays.
Some of you readers may rely on generally planning ahead. Others may be totally comfortable with going with their own flow. Whichever camp you find yourself falling in, make no mistake: when it comes to the holidays, preparation for any dinners or get-togethers will only save your sanity. If you’re planning on bringing a side dish, you’ll of course want to make sure that you’ll be able to enjoy what you bring. As you well know by now, being pregnant causes a drastic change to your diet. It can be tricky to navigate the dinner/buffet during the holiday season with your diet being so stringent. There will be plenty of meat and cheese trays, delicious custard desserts, and very likely a lot of alcohol. Do some research before heading to any gatherings to keep your mind fresh as to what is safe to eat and what is not.
Preparation does not just apply to what you’ll be eating or drinking. There is a chance that you’ll have someone in your life who’s attending the same event that you are who does not understand your surrogacy journey. Unfortunately, some people cannot wrap their minds around why someone would volunteer to give birth to a child they don’t intend to raise. It can be difficult to remain calm and patient, especially if this particular person is being rude. If they are, you may want to keep a close friend or family member who knows your situation close by. They can act as a buffer to the offending party, or even stick up for you if you’re too worn out to argue.
Self-Care and Stress Reduction
When it comes to the winter holidays, it’s no secret that you can easily get worn out. All of the preparation you’ve done can just leave you exhausted, especially when you’re pregnant. Those hormones that infamously characterize pregnancy have a tendency to run amok at the least convenient times. It can be easy to get overwhelmed at any time of year during a pregnancy. Somehow, the holidays can amp that overwhelming feeling to a completely new level.
That said, you’ll want to take it easy on yourself. While it may be impossible to completely avoid stress, you should take every step to reduce it where you can. If your family tends to be loud and boisterous and you need a minute to be in the quiet, excuse yourself to a different room. Whether you just need to nap, or if you just need a moment to yourself, take the time to do so! Your comfort should always be one of your highest priorities -- especially when you’re an expectant surrogate.
It Takes a Village
Whether you’re going to your annual Christmas dinner or having a gathering of close friends, it’s important to keep in mind that you are not in this holiday season alone! Your circle has your best interests at heart, and will more than likely offer their help to you. Some days, you’ll be more than willing to take the assistance. Others, you may be feeling a tad more stubborn, and not want to accept their help. In any case, remember: you have people around you who want to help. Let them!
Pregnant Surrogates During the Holidays
It can be easy to get caught up in the chaotic energy that can sometimes surround this time of year, even with all of the festive lights and delicious foods. When you’re a pregnant surrogate during the holidays, you may find that you’re becoming overwhelmed a little more quickly. Remember to take it easy on yourself, dear surrogate! You’re performing one of the kindest acts that you can perform. Hang in there!
If you’re ready to get started on your gestational surrogacy journey, or have further questions regarding your current journey, please don’t hesitate to get in contact with us. We’re always happy to help you in any way we can. You can reach us by phone, through email, social media, or our instant messaging service found on our website.
Be safe and be well, friends! Happy Holidays!
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