4 Ways Birth Mothers Can Celebrate National Adoption Month
It’s November, and do you know what time it is? It’s National Adoption Month! If you already knew that then you are ahead of the game. If not, welcome to the celebration! This whole month is dedicated to you, the adoptive parents, and the adoptee. That is what we like to call the adoption triad.
There is so much focus on the adoptive parents, though, that the birth mother can get lost in the system. That is why we want to include ways for you to celebrate National Adoption Month too. Forgetting, or just not acknowledging, a large part of adoption just isn’t right.
What are ways birth mothers can celebrate National Adoption Month?
1. What can You do as a Birth Mother?
As a birth mother, there are many things you can do to celebrate this month. Many places will bring to light how adoptive parents can celebrate, but this focus is on you. What can you do this month?
The options are numerous, but here are some to get you started:
Attend an adoption seminar or event to learn about the adoption process
Join a support group made just for birth mothers
Share your adoption story with friends and family
Contact one of our adoption caseworkers on the first steps
Talk with one of our adoption counselors for emotional support
Learn all that you can about to expect when you place your baby for adoption
It doesn’t matter where you are in your adoption journey, you are still a valued member of the adoption triad and can become involved in whatever way you feel comfortable.
2. Meet Up with Your Child’s Adoptive Parents
If you have an open adoption and feel comfortable spending time with your child’s adoptive parents, National Adoption Month could be a perfect time to celebrate. While it may look a little different this November thanks to the worldwide pandemic, that doesn’t mean you can’t spend quality time with them. Arrange a ZOOM call or conversation over the phone. Even an email thread back and forth is a good alternative!
There is no telling what the future holds, but spending time together is a great way to bond and celebrate. Make memories. So, be sure to take pictures, tell stories, share traditions, and grow as an adoptive family together. Maybe try your hand at cooking with your child’s adoptive family during this time. Even if you aren’t the best cook, some of the best stories come from the kitchen -- especially when someone gets covered in flour handprints!
3. Connect with Others on Social Media
Social media is one of those places you can tell your story, and connect with others. This could include friends, family, adoption professionals or other birth mothers. From doing videos on TikTok - yes there are people above 21 on there - to even doing a Facebook post. Just getting your story out there is enough to celebrate too.
You never know who might see your post and be inspired to pursue their own adoption journey. Seeing your words may help them feel like they are less alone. Give them hope, encouragement and comfort in a time that they really need it. Along the same lines, reading stories of other birth mothers, adoptive parents and adoptees can help you learn and become less anxious as well. T
If sharing your story through writing isn’t your thing, you could make a video that features your adoption journey. After all, not everyone has time to read a full post, and videos tend to grab our audience’s attention, especially if they are more visual learners. Remember that your video doesn’t have to be long or fancy. Share only what you want to. If you want you can, get your child’s adoptive parents in on it too. Showing the world that adoptions are successful is a wonderful way to celebrate National Adoption Month.
4. Spend Time with Other Birth Mothers
There are plenty of support and activity groups out there that focus on birth moms. Social media outlets like Facebook and MeetUp are excellent resources to use with this. These platforms will be a great help if you’re wanting to find birth mother groups in your specific area.
But, connecting with other birth mothers can help you gain deeper insight into the adoption journey. You will meet women who have placed in the past, are considering it like you are, or who are currently in the midst of their adoption journey. Having all these perspectives can be a great sense of comfort. You will also learn that these other birth mothers truly understand what you are going through, which can reduce your stress, fears, and worries and allow you to learn from their wisdom and experience.
Ways Birth Mothers can Celebrate National Adoption Month
You are so important to not only the adoption triad but also adoption as a whole. Without you and your loving choice to place your baby with an adoptive family, the process of adoption wouldn’t exist. You are such an instrumental part of giving your child their best chance at life and helping adoptive parents’ dreams of having a family come true.
Whether you choose to celebrate National Adoption Month as a birth mother or not, know that you are important and valued. That Adoption Choices of Reno acknowledges and celebrates you. If you have any questions or concerns about the adoption process or what to expect, don’t hesitate to reach out. We can’t wait to hear from you!
Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Reno has been providing adoption and surrogacy services across Nevada since 2012. You can call us to speak to someone now!