Birth Mother Adoption Hospital Plan 101
It is time to tackle the subject that may have been pushed to the back of your mind. You are going to give birth to your baby at some point, and that means you need a birth plan -- also known as a hospital plan. This helps make sure that you get what you need at the hospital.
With an adoption plan, your birth plan will have some details most women won’t have on theirs. Nothing wrong with that, as you have an extra step in your plan. You have an adoptive parent or parents that are waiting right alongside you. You have to factor the adoptive parents in as they are going to play an important part in your journey.
What is a Hospital Plan Anyway?
A key step in making an adoption hospital plan is knowing what one even is. It sounds pretty simple, right? The plan you make before you go into the hospital. You aren’t wrong, that is exactly what it is, but there is a little more to it than that.
An adoption hospital plan is going to detail how you want your labor to go. Who the doctors are supposed to be. Who do you want in the delivery room with you? All those things are going to be a huge part of your hospital plan. The idea is to plan for the things that you can control. That is the key here, it has to be things you can control. If you can’t control it, then it is best left to the professionals who know what they are doing. Like labor complications, leave that to your doctors to know what’s best.
Here is what you should have on your list no matter the reason you are going to the hospital.
Do you want medication during labor?
Do you want a natural birth or do you want a c-section?
Who are the doctors that are going to help you give birth?
What hospital are you going to be at?
If you have a spouse do you want them in the room with you?
Do you want visitors?
Do you want photos taken or a video?
A Birth Mother Hospital Plan
Your plan is going to be different than a normal one. It will still have the same things on it but with some extra steps in it. The hospital plan is going to be the partner to your adoption plan. The adoption plan that you’ve already made by this point that details what you want to happen in your adoption journey.
So, what do you need in your hospital plan? Here are some questions to ask yourself when you start making your plan.
Who is going to be in the delivery room with you?
Do you want the adoptive family in the delivery room with you?
Do you want to have time along with your baby or would you rather not be alone?
Which members of your support system are going to be at the hospital with you?
Who is going to hold your baby first?
If you have other children are they going to be at the hospital?
Do you want to nurse your baby?
Who is going to keep the hospital mementos? Like the hat, wristband, blanket, and anything else.
Do you want any pictures of you and your baby together?
Do you want any pictures of your baby to take home?
Is there any keepsake or special gifts you want to give to your baby?
Do you want to leave the hospital at the same time as your baby if you can?
Who’s going to take you home?
Who’s going to take care of you when you get home?
This isn’t everything you need to ask, of course, but it is a good start. It’s a good place to think about what you really want out of this. This is your birth, after all. No matter what this is still going to be your birth and you have a say in it all.
As always, communicate with the adoptive parents about your plan. It could feel strange talking to them at first but as you and them get closer you may find them as friends.
Hospital Adoption Plans During COVID-19
If you are giving birth during the global pandemic, your hospital plan is going to look a little different. They may not let the adoptive family be in the delivery room or hospital with you at the time of birth. It is going to depend on the hospital, which is why you should call before labor starts. Get ahead of it all by knowing what the protocols for the hospital are. It could save you time, and your adoptive parents can know what to prepare for as well.
Birth Mothers and Hospital Plans
It may seem strange to have to add people to your plan. It may feel like this isn’t really awkward to ask them to join in. What matters is that you make one at the end of the day. The best part about it? It can adapt to your needs. If you are at the hospital and your plan changes that is perfectly fine. This plan doesn’t mean it has to happen that way. It is just a general idea of what you want to happen during the birth of your baby. So, take some time to write down what you want and let the people in your life that need to know, know.
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