6 Surprising Facts About Gestational Surrogacy
As you continue to do your research into gestational surrogacy, you may find yourself getting the same information over and over. It may even seem like you’ve learned everything you need to know! Well, as with many things in life, there will always be some things that you don’t expect...that surprise you.
Today is one of those days! We here at Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Reno are going to visit some of the most surprising facts about gestational surrogacy that you’ll find on your journey.
#1: Intended mothers can breastfeed their children
This is certainly one to kick things off, isn’t it? It’s true, though! According to Breastfeeding USA, breastfeeding your child after they’ve been born via gestational carrier is advised by the American Academy of Pediatrics.
Breastfeeding your baby had many benefits. Not only does it help with the bonding experience, but it also provides essential nutrients to your child. Lactation production can vary from woman to woman, so intended mothers who wish to breastfeed their children should consult with their doctors about this, and the resources available to them.
#2: Surrogacy is not legal in all 50 United States.
Now, this one is likely to be either very surprising, or not surprising at all. The amount of your surprise largely depends on where you live.
Unfortunately, there are still a few states in our country that have not legalized gestational surrogacy. There are some, also, where practicing gestational surrogacy is technically legal, but there are numerous hoops you’ll have to jump through in order to get the ball rolling. We strongly recommend that you look up your state’s laws regarding surrogacy.
For all of you Nevadans, you can rest easy. It’s pretty easy to get started!
#3: Gestational Carriers can offer their services to intended parents more than once
More than one intended parent(s) at a time? As strange as it may seem -- yes! In fact, you hear stories about this all the time once you’ve stepped into the gestational surrogacy journey. For some of you, though, this can come as quite an unexpected, but welcome turn.
Of course, how many times a woman is able to be a gestational carrier is dependent on her health, age, and her ability to carry a pregnancy successfully to term. Keep in mind that in order to become a gestational carrier, more often than not, the hopeful carrier would need to have at least one child, or have had at least one successful pregnancy.
#4: You will bond with your child
For some of you, this one may not need to be on a list of surprising facts about gestational surrogacy. Perhaps you’ve been down this road before. You have had a successful gestational journey with your child(ren), and you have had no issue bonding with them. You’re not concerned, and are looking forward to bonding with your newest little one.
For some of you newcomers, however, this is likely to be a relieving fact. Many intended parents who are new to the gestational journey are, understandably, anxious. Thoughts such as: if I’m not carrying my baby to term, will I be able to bond with them? can cause some serious stress and tears.
But, rest assured, you’ll have plenty of opportunities to bond with your baby as the journey unfolds. Especially if you and your gestational carrier have agreed that you can attend the prenatal appointments. You’ll find that looking at the ultrasound, and hearing your baby’s heartbeat can create a bond far beyond your understanding.
#5: Gestational Carriers do not want to keep the baby
This can be another anxiety-driven thought that pops into every intended parent’s mind. What if my carrier wants to keep the baby?
You can rest easy on this one -- it’s not possible. Because the gestational carrier holds no biological connection to the child, she is not qualified to seek parental rights. She cannot change her mind and keep the baby after he or she is born. A gestational carrier completely understands what she is agreeing to and has no intention of keeping the child.
When it comes to traditional surrogacy, however, this has the potential of happening. That’s why it’s banned in the US, and strong legal agreements are written up to prevent this as much as possible. But, with gestational surrogacy, the child belongs to the intended parents. Please check out this interview to learn more.
#6: Gestational carriers are not in this solely for the money
This is essential to anyone looking into gestational surrogacy...so much so, that we’re going to request that you read this section’s title one more time.
The reason this is so important? Not only is it extremely untrue, but it’s also the cause of much damage to gestational carriers and their reputation. While compensation may or may not be included in the agreement, gestational carriers genuinely care more about the intended parents and want to help them have a family they couldn’t otherwise have. Many, also simply love the feeling of being pregnant.
Being a gestational carrier is not how you make a living. It isn’t a job. It’s a heartfelt offer to help. If this isn’t enough to convince you, maybe this will be: as part of their background checks, gestational carriers must meet financial requirements and can’t be receiving any sort of government subsidy.
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Were there any facts on this list that you weren’t, actually, all that surprised to see? Any that you were surprised to see? Let us know in the comments section!
If you’re ready to begin your first step into the gestational surrogacy journey, either as an intended parent or as a gestational carrier, feel free to get in touch with us! We’re available via social media, email, by phone, and via our site’s messaging service. Whatever your communication comfort level is, we’re always happy to hear from you, and to answer any questions you may have!
Be safe, and as always, be well friends!
Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Reno has been providing adoption and surrogacy services across Nevada since 2012. You can call us to speak to someone now!