Is Adoption Right For You and Your Baby?
You are facing one of the toughest choices in your life right now. An unplanned pregnancy can rock your world in a way that you weren’t expecting. Maybe right now just isn’t the right time to take care of a baby, or you already have your hands full with other little ones. No matter what is happening, there is something very important you need to know.
You are not giving up your baby for adoption. Giving up has a very negative meaning, and, unfortunately, some people will always say it. However, you are placing your baby for adoption. You are giving your baby a chance to have a better or just life with more options. Not sure who thought that meant giving up on someone when the exact opposite is true.
The real question here though is one you might be asking: Is adoption right for you?
4 Major Questions
The direct answer to your question is one we can’t provide. As much as we wish we had a magic answer that would whisk away all your worries, we just don’t. This is a question that only you can answer in the long run. We will be here to help you along the way and make sure whatever decision you chose is the one for you.
One thing we can promise, though. We can provide you with the answers to some of the most commonly asked questions birth mother have when deciding whether or not adoption is the right choice.:
Are you financially able to provide for your child right now?
Are you unable to raise a child right now?
Do you understand the adoption process?
What are your thoughts on abortion?
1. Are you Financially able to Provide for Your Child Right Now?
As cute as babies are, they aren’t cheap. There is some serious financial logistics that go into raising a child. Diapers, clothing, formula, car seat -- the works -- are all going to add up. That isn’t even adding in things before the baby is born.
Being pregnant is hard work, and you have to factor in medical care for yourself. It is important that you stay healthy so your baby has a better chance of being healthy too. The better care you can get, the better care your baby has in the long run. Now, if you can’t afford medical expenses, it might be time to look into adoption. While finances should never be the only reason you go into an adoption, it can play a part.
Money is a source of stress in many people all over the United States. Do not feel bad if you are having difficulty with it. You aren’t lesser than others for it. It is just a sad fact about life sometimes. It can happen to anyone, so if you are feeling this it is okay. There are ways to help you if you choose adoption, and, if not, there are resources out there for you.
2. Are You Unable to Raise a Child Right Now?
This is a time to be fully honest with yourself. It isn’t selfish to think this way either. If there is anyone or anything that is pressuring you into not thinking about yourself during this, it is wrong. It is okay to be selfish sometimes.
Maybe you have a dream you are working towards and haven’t reached yet. That could be the dream job that would allow you to have a family or be better off financially. Can you raise a baby with the job you have now, or will having a baby stop you from reaching your goal? It’s okay to admit that maybe having a baby right now will.
In fact, you are being selfless. Knowing that you can’t raise a child right now, but wanting to give them the best shot despite your feelings, takes a lot of courage. You are putting the baby’s needs before your own happiness.
3. Do You Understand the Adoption Process?
This is such an important question. The adoption process has changed from what the media said it was years ago. There is also the change of the lingo. For instance, you are not “giving up your child for adoption.” Why? Because you aren’t giving up on him or her. You are placing your baby for adoption because you are giving him or her the best chance at life.
You, as a birth mother, are actually in charge of the whole process of what you want. Do you want an open adoption? Done. Everything is done to make sure that your plan goes through as best as it possibly can. You will be paired up with a caseworker that will help you through each step. That is the key here.
No matter what you pick, a caseworker can help you through the whole process. You will not have to be alone or confused about something. Have a question? Feel free to reach out and ask.
4. What are Your Thoughts on Abortion?
There is nothing wrong with being uncomfortable with the idea of abortion. There are many reasons why other birth mothers may differ on this subject. It is a safe legal option, but it isn’t right for everyone. If you find yourself on the fence about it, talk to a doctor about it. In most states, you have to go through some form of counseling before having an abortion.
If you feel pressured by the birth father, your family or other outside forces then abortion may not be right for you. This is your choice and no one else’s. While it isn’t talked about that often, that is why some women do consider adoption.
Is Adoption Right for You and Your Baby?
There is no right or wrong answer to this. Listen to your heart and your gut. A woman’s intuition is a very real thing. The short answer to all of this is rather simple. You will just know. You are the only one who will be able to tell what is right for you and your baby.
Remember, you should never feel pressured to pick between the choices. If you are feeling pressure, take a step back. Take a few deep breaths and reevaluate. Make sure you have all the information before making a choice too. It will all work out in the end, though.
Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Reno has been providing adoption and surrogacy services across Nevada since 2012. You can call us to speak to someone now!