Placing baby for adoption in Reno?
Birth Mothers Get Birth Plans Too!
As your pregnancy progresses, you may have heard the term “birth plan” bandied around by your medical provider or adoption specialist. Sometimes, when birth plans are spoken about, there’s a lot of focus on the type of music you want to listen to while in labor or what blend of essential oils you prefer. For many, many years, labor was where the doctor made all of the decisions, and the mother was along for the ride. Sometimes, she was treated like she was in the way of the birth, instead of the person in the driver seat.
As a woman choosing adoption, you may wonder if having a birth plan is important, or if you’re entitled to assert your preferences in the Labor and Delivery (L&D) room. The answer is: of course it is, and of course you are! A birth plan is a way to take control of your birth experience and make decisions that have lasting impacts on your body, as well as your baby.
What in the World is a Birth Plan?
First things first: A birth plan is a document that you bring with you to the hospital that sets out your preference for labor, pain relief, delivery room settings, post delivery care, etc…
But let’s be real for a minute. Labor is unpredictable and could last hours or days. During that time, you’ll experience nursing staff changes as they clock in and out of their shifts. The nurses are your advocates in the L&D room. They familiarize themselves with your preferences and relay the necessary information to the doctors. By putting your preferences into a birth plan, you don’t have to repeat the details to every new nurse that starts their shift.
Creating a Birth Plan
Your adoption specialist will walk you through all the important details you might want to consider, including:
1) Who you’d like in the Delivery Room pre/during/after labor
Whoever your support network is -- family, friends, your social worker, and even the adoptive family -- they need to be granted permission by you to be in the L&D room. If you’ve already arranged it with your child’s adoptive parents, this is where you indicate if they’re welcome in the delivery room.
(Currently, Las Vegas hospitals are not allowing visitors or multiple guests in delivery rooms due to COVID-19. Your provider will be able to tell you with more specificity if/when the regulations will be relaxed at your specific hospital.)
2) Comfort Preferences
Would you like a birthing ball? Would you like to be able to walk around or take a bath before labor? Comfort preferences cover everything from how often you want to be checked on to what birthing positions you prefer to try or avoid.
3) Pain Management
The big focus on pain management tends to focus on natural vs. epidermal. Yes, you can choose that, but there are more pain management preferences that you can choose from as well. Some hospitals offer massage, TENS or pain-dulling medication used instead of, or in conjunction with, an epidermal.
You can also list what pain management method you’d like to start with and list the next steps in order. Please keep in mind that you can change your mind on the day of. You won't be held to this decision.
4) Delivery Preferences
Delivery preferences encompass the choices that need to be made going into delivery, and the adjustments that need to be made in order to deliver a healthy baby. If your baby is stuck, are you willing to have a cesarean? Would you prefer to try forceps or vacuum before resorting to a C-section?
All of these choices can be discussed with your provider or researched independently, and you can definitely make changes on the fly as you have more information on the day.
5) Post Delivery Preferences
Post delivery decisions range from your own care (i.e. how long you’d like to stay, what food you’d like to eat, etc…) to how long until they clamp the umbilical cord. For the moments directly after delivery, having preferences in writing are very beneficial, because you may be out of it from whatever pain management choice you made or from exhaustion.
You can also include your child’s adoptive parents in this portion. Would you like your baby to stay with you for the first little while or be given directly to his or her new adoptive family? Work with your caseworker and the family you’ve chosen to make these moments comfortable for you and everyone who will be welcoming your baby on delivery day.
6) Newborn Care
Depending on when you plan on placing your baby with their adoptive parents, you may be involved with the initial decisions for your baby. Would you prefer to breastfeed while you’re in the hospital, or do you want the nursing staff to prepare and feed your baby bottles in the nursery?
Again, this is a great opportunity to control your experience and work closely with the adoptive family to set out the best plan for everyone.
Creating a Birth Plan with Adoptive Parents
Depending on the type of adoption you’re planning, and the level of communication you have with the adoptive parents you’ve chosen to raise your child, will guide how involved they are with creating a birth plan. Plan for your comfort first -- you’re doing the work on the big day. But, if you’re already working with them, either directly or through your caseworker, see what preferences they might have as well.
As always, Adoption Choices of Nevada is here to guide you if you have questions.
Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Reno has been providing adoption and surrogacy services across Nevada since 2012. You can call us to speak to someone now!