What is a Closed Adoption? Pros and Cons
If you’ve been considering adoption, you’ve probably seen certain terms associated with it. For instance, there are three types of adoption you can choose from, the most common of which is open adoption. This particular type of adoption has become more popular over the years. However, that shouldn’t take away from the fact that the other types -- specifically closed adoption -- is a completely valid thing to choose.
If you are brand new to the adoption world, it may be really weird to hear that many people are considering open adoption rather than closed. It can be hard to wrap your head around it at first. The most important thing to know is that closed adoption isn’t a bad thing.
What is a closed adoption, though?
What is a Closed Adoption
Put simply, closed adoption is where the contact between the birth mother and the adoptive family is nonexistent. There is not going to be any contact between you, your child or the adoptive family after you’ve terminated your parental rights and the adoption has been finalized in court. Information isn’t shared either. Things like first and last names, medical history and contact information are not given to protect both side’s identities.
In the past, this was the case throughout the vast majority of adoptions. No personal information was given, and then there was no contact between the two parties. In recent years that has changed to be more open. However, that doesn’t mean closed adoptions are no longer an option. In fact, they are still there and, while not as popular, they do still happen.
Pros and Cons of Closed Adoption
Let’s look at some of the pros and cons of a closed adoption. Everything comes with a list of benefits and drawbacks, and this is no different. Before you decide how much or how little contact you want to have with your child and the adoptive family throughout your adoption journey, you have every right to know what you are getting into. The pros don’t necessarily outweigh the cons and vice versa. What matters is that you feel comfortable in your choice.
Pros of Closed Adoption
Closure. This may seem a little odd to think about. However, you get to have the emotional closure you may need. Maybe this pregnancy was really rough on you, be it physical or mental. Depending on your perspective, you may find that no contact is what is best for you. Knowing what you did what was right and being able to move on may work out for you. Truthfully, it is going to depend on what you think.
Safety. Sometimes the safety of you and your child is up for debate. A closed adoption could easily keep your child safe from anyone out there who wishes either of you harm in any way.
Privacy. Privacy for many people is key. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that either. A closed adoption can make it easier to hide it from certain people. While we encourage you to tell those around you so you can have support, we know that it isn’t always a good or safe option for you.
Cons of Closed Adoption
Lack of medical history. Let’s start off with a big one. Not being able to access medical records can be a challenge for the adoptive parents as your child grows up. Medical records are personal information as much as they are genetic, and with a closed adoption, neither the adoptive parents or your child get to know these details. So, if your child develops a health condition, and there’s no background information available it can make things complicated. Even if there is little known, new medical complications can always come. This can be a struggle for adoptees in the long run.
No closure. Sometimes the closure never comes. It can be seen in recent studies that birth parents feel better seeing the adoptee grow up to be happy and healthy. This isn’t always the case, but it is worth mentioning.
Keeping a closed adoption closed. Since the rise of social media and at-home DNA test kits, it has been more and more difficult to keep an adoption closed. Keep that in mind if you prefer privacy when choosing adoption. Of course, you can always deny contact should it ever happen.
Is Closed Adoption Bad?
The short answer is no. A closed adoption is not a bad thing. If you feel the best with a closed adoption, then that is what works for you. There is nothing bad or wrong about choosing this type of adoption. It is just becoming less popular now. Only you know what’s best for you, and that’s the path you should take.
If the adoption agency you are with is trying to guilt you out of a closed adoption, you need to find another. Every adoption type is valid, and it is always your choice on what type you want. Don’t be bullied into a choice you don’t feel comfortable with.
Choosing a Closed Adoption is Up to You
At the end of the day, what choice you make is up to you. Put some research into all the types of adoption and figure out what suits your needs the best. Don’t worry about what others think, as you have to do what you feel is right. If that means a closed adoption, then Adoption Choices of Reno will respect your decision. We are here to support you every step of the way. There is nothing wrong or bad about a closed adoption. It may not be the most popular choice, but that doesn’t make it any less valid.
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