7 Questions for Gestational Surrogates to Ask Ask Your Intended Parents during the Matching Process
There’s a lot that goes into the gestational surrogacy journey that can make the experience seem a bit overwhelming. You have to go through all of the screenings, the medical and psychological evaluations, and then the matching process. When it comes time to actually meet your potential match, you may feel as though you’re at a total loss as to where to start. Of course you want to get to know them. They’ll be your teammate through the next year or so.
Not to worry! Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Reno is here to help you get the conversations between you and your match flowing. Here are 7 questions for gestational surrogates to ask intended parents! We’ll order the questions from basic “getting to know you” to more “in-depth.”
1) What do you like to do?
This seems like a pretty common topic to begin a conversation with, but hey. It’s a classic for a reason! It’s important that you don’t accidentally overwhelm your potential match with questions about the gestational surrogacy journey. Remember, they’re probably just as nervous as you are! You’ll have plenty of time to broach the topic of the surrogacy journey as you get to know each other better. So starting out with an icebreaker such as this should get the ball rolling fairly well.
2) What’s your family like?
This inquiry informs your potential match that you’re truly interested in their lives outside of the surrogacy journey you’ll be taking together. That you aren’t interested only in their half of your potential partnership. This can also help ease any discomfort that there might be while the conversation is still in its fledgling stages.
3) Why are you turning to gestational surrogacy?
Now we’re getting to the whole reason that you’re being brought together. It’s what you want to know, and what they want to talk about. Their answer could very well be the deal maker or deal breaker that helps you make your decision. Be patient, though, as they answer. Some intended parents have a painful past when it comes to trying to conceive, and they may not be quite ready to open up about their reasonings behind turning to gestational surrogacy.
(If this appears to be the case, you can always share your story first, if you’re comfortable with that idea. This could grease the wheels on this particular topic, and help your potential match feel more at ease sharing their tale with you.)
4) What excites you about the family-building process?
This is a great way to get a glimpse into how they’ll care for their child. While you may not be a part of their lives after the surrogacy journey, knowing that the child will be going to good people can be extremely comforting as you make your decision.
5) What are your expectations for this relationship?
Now, this is arguably one of the most important questions you’ll ask and answer during the matching process. This is where you’ll either find that you’re meant to be the others’ match, or you’ll be on the lookout for other potential matches.
6) What are you looking for in a gestational surrogate?
This is probably THE most important question to ask your potential match. Knowing what your potential match expects from you will tell you everything you need to know. Much like finding out their expectations, finding out what they expect from you will help you make your decision more than you realize. You may even learn that you have limits you hadn’t thought of before!
7) Do you have any questions for us/me?
As it is with any conversation, you’ll want to open it up to your potential match, if you haven’t already. As we’ve said before, they’ll likely be as nervous as you are, and have just as many questions to ask. Like all relationships, it is a two-way street.
Questions for Gestational Surrogates to Ask
It’s easy to get overwhelmed or overly excited as you begin this stage of the gestational surrogacy journey. Sometimes you can plan out what you want to ask or say ahead of time, but when you’re finally talking with your potential match, you may be at a loss for what to say. On the other hand, you may have a tendency to babble. Remember not to hit them with a barrage of these questions. Take the time to get to know one another, and as always, be patient.
Were there any questions you felt didn’t need to be on this list? Any that you didn’t expect to see? Let us know in the comments!
If you’re ready to get started on your gestational surrogacy journey, or if you’re ready to be matched, don’t hesitate to give us a call! We’re always happy to answer any questions you may have, and address any concerns that may come up. We’re available to you via email, phone, social media and our instant messaging system found on our website. Whichever you are most comfortable with, we have your back!
Be safe and be well, friends!
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