Introduction to Adoption in Reno Birth Mother Perspective
This is a whole different view than you get with the adoptive parents. No one has talked about what it is like from your perspective. It is a shame, too, as birth mothers are the start of this adoptive process. Without you, well, there would be no adoption, and that would mean families who were made from adoption wouldn’t exist either.
Imagine you got that positive pregnancy test back, and it isn’t the answer you were hoping for. After the whirlwind of emotions that come with that, you have to make a choice. You chose to go forward with adoption.
This is your introduction to adoption from a birth mother’s perspective.
The adoption process is a big intimidating process if you don’t know where to start. This is going to be your mini-guide to look back on if you are feeling a little lost. Since the whole process spans from pregnancy to birth, there is more than enough time to forget something or become overwhelmed.
Step One: Determine Your Adoption Type
When it comes to adoption, there are three types. You are going to have to pick between three different options. Each one has its own pros and cons, and it really comes down to how comfortable you are going to be. Here are three options:
Open Adoption: There will be open communication between you and the adoptive family that can include, but is not limited to: visiting times, calls, emails, photo sharing, and a bond with the child and adoptive family. A benefit to open adoption is that you get to stay connected and can answer important questions later on. It also may ease any sense of guilt and help you heal. If you are worried about your child and his or her new family, open adoption allows you to see your child happy, healthy, and safe.
Semi-Open Adoption: Communication is limited in this type of adoption to letters, which are mediated through your adoption agency. This can be a good option if you wish to keep your privacy from the family, but still want the option of your child getting to know you later on. An added benefit is that your child will have access to his or her medical and health history, which can greatly help the adoptive family provide the best care.
Closed Adoption: This is the choice where there is no communication between you and the adoptive family.
Step Two: Find Your Adoption Agency
Now that you have picked your adoption route, it’s time to find an agency. To do this effectively, it’s important that you research all that you can. Not all adoption agencies will meet your needs, and that is okay! Here are a few things you need to look for when searching for an agency:
Make sure your agency is licensed
Look for adoption professionals
What services does that adoption agency offer during and after your pregnancy?
Do you trust them?
How responsive is the adoption agency to your questions?
All these questions and statements are important for your safety and wellbeing. You are picking a place that is going to be a large part of your life and the foreseeable future. You deserve to be happy with your choice and not feel as if you are being hurt. The last thing you should feel is uncomfortable with your adoption agency.
That said, you have us now! Adoption Choices of Reno are licensed and have adoption professionals that are always willing to answer your questions. We offer services for you during and after your pregnancy, and we try to be as responsive as possible. Even during uncertain times like these in the midst of the COVID-19 pandemic, we are still open and available. Also, we are open during the holidays too! You will not be judged here. You are going to be accepted no matter why you are here.
Step Three: Review Possible Adoptive Families
You are going to be searching for prospective adoptive families once you figure out what you want. This is all going to be part of your adoption plan that you write out once you find your adoption agency. The point here is to narrow down your options to see what is going to be a good fit for you and your baby.
This step includes interviewing the families you pick from the list your adoption agency gives you. Interviewing gives you a better understanding of the family. You get to know them and get to see what they are like.
Once this is done, you can pick the adoptive family you feel will be the best fit.
Step Four: Give Birth
By this time, you are probably wondering if you will ever be able to put your shoes on by yourself again or wear jeans again. Don’t worry. That is perfectly normal to feel. Once you give birth, you have on average 48 hours to relinquish your parental rights, depending on what state you live in.
Step Five: Heal
You are going to be done with the adoption at this point, but you need to take the time to heal. Adoption is a hard thing to go through, but you did it. Find your support team and lean on them. All the emotions that you are feeling are valid. Take your time and find your own footing again.
Introduction to Adoption Birth Mother Perspective
There you have it! That’s the full adoption process. You have made it through and, depending on the decisions you made, your journey with your child may not be over. Here at Adoption
Choices of Reno, we are here to help you. You are never going to be alone on this journey as we will be there to help. You got this and despite it being a shock, you can handle this.
Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Reno has been providing adoption and surrogacy services across Nevada since 2012. You can call us to speak to someone now!