Surrogacy vs. Adoption: What is the Best Path to Parenthood for You?
Hooray, you’ve decided to grow your family! Many winding roads can lead to seeking alternative parenting. Perhaps you’re a part of a couple who has had infertility issues, or a same-sex relationship who cannot conceive on their own. Maybe you just have too much love in your heart not to share. Whichever way you’ve found yourself here, now, you’ll find that you’re faced with two options to alternative parenting: surrogacy and adoption. So...which do you choose?
This isn’t a decision that can be taken lightly and requires a lot of research. Each path to parenthood offers something different, so you’ll want to do your homework in order to find out exactly which path suits your life and needs best.
Feeling overwhelmed? Don’t worry! Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Reno is here to help! This week, we’ll be diving into surrogacy vs. adoption, and covering the three central differences between the two to help you decide which course of action works best for you!
1. The Bloodline
The first major difference between adoption and surrogacy is the genetic factor. With adoption, adoptive parents do not have a biological connection with their child. With gestational surrogacy, on the other hand, the intended parent(s) do.
For some hopeful parents, sharing that genetic link with their child is incredibly important. If you, or you and your partner or spouse are counted among those in this line of thought, you may find you are more comfortable with gestational surrogacy than adoption. The IVF process and use of a surrogate assures that your child will share your DNA.
However, for many other hopeful parents, being blood-related to their child isn’t their main priority. Simply being able to parent a child who is in need of parenting is quite enough for them. If that sounds like your preference, you should begin looking into adoption!
2. Finding Your Match
In adoption, the adoptive parents must follow the birth mother’s lead, as far as the adoption process goes. Once the birth mother selects them as a prospective match, she and the adoptive parents then come to an agreement that suits everyone involved.
With gestational surrogacy, both the intended parent(s) and surrogates have a say in the matching process. It’s important for both sides to get along well and feel comfortable with each other before agreeing to journey through gestational surrogacy together. Whether you’re looking to become someone’s surrogate, or you’re looking for a surrogate, Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Reno will take the time to get to know you and your needs and will use this information to find the best match possible for you.
3. Second Thoughts
Another major difference found in the surrogacy vs. adoption argument: the risk of adoptions falling through. As sad as it is, sometimes an adoptive parents’ worst nightmare comes to pass, and the birth mother changes her mind. She decides to keep her child, leaving the adoptive parents heartbroken and at a loss. The opposite side can happen too. At the last minute, the adoptive parents can back out of the arrangement they’ve set up with the birth mother, leaving her in a horrible position. While these situations don’t occur often, they do occur, so it’s an important aspect to keep in mind.
With gestational surrogacy, an agreement is drafted between the intended parents’ and the surrogate’s surrogacy attorneys once the match has been made. Since the surrogate has no biological link to the child, she cannot change her mind and decide to parent the child herself.
Which is the Best Choice for You?
The path to growing your family is, undoubtedly, a beautiful one. Today, we’ve only offered up three ways to go about it, but make no mistake: there are plenty of ways to grow your family! Be sure to think about what you want as you research and decide which path to parenthood is best for you. Remember: there is no right or wrong choice. It’s all about what feels right for you.
Were there any differences that didn’t make the list that you think should have? Do you have further questions about the specifics of these steps? Give us a call or leave a comment below! We always enjoy hearing from you and helping you in any way we can!
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Stay safe and be well, friends!
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